I had to be induced. Third, I would look into more long term plans on how to unwind after a long day at work. I get all the credit for being an awesome stepdad and none of the crap over what got screwed up during labor. Around 2am, I heard the scraping of a badly manoeuvred BBQ onto the deck and felt my husband flop down beside me into the bed. Woo hoo! (Dont even ask about our planning ability! Allison Leonard/Ilona McCarty. In the throes of that hell my husband turns to me and says, Im about to head out and meet up with the fellas. Why do you women, not tell your foolish husbands long before you give birth, what you will not tolerate from him during your birth. My doctor walked in while he was talking, looked at me still laying on the delivery bed, and told my husband he should probably take care of that later. Delivery type: Vaginal that progressed to C-section. How long has it been since you had a drink? By the way, he would never drive while drinking, he thought it would be completely fine to call an ambulance to take me to the hospital if he's drunk. The biggest sign that the bloody show has occurred is you may notice a bloody mucus discharge from your vagina. My husband has never gotten a drivers license so I had to drive us the 25 minutes to the hospital while dealing with early contractions. Imagine youre married to an alcoholic husband who drinks daily and beyond the limit, only to create a nuisance later. When he got home, he dropped his phone in a stock pot that was soaking in the sink. You can also ask them any questions you may have and share your experiences with them. So there are nights of going to bed and retreating to our own sides of the bed. All I am saying is that it will probably work itself out in the end. Even if this method doesn't work, it's a great way to relieve stress and keep your body strong for the . When the July 14, 2012 due date of Gainesville, Florida resident Melissa Hoh came and went, her husband's friends told him about a news story they'd read in 2006 about three women going into labor . How pregnant: 41 weeks, 2 days. When I told my boyfriend it was time to go, he said he needed to take a shower and shave. Holy fuuk. I beleive that 4th pregnancy has got to be my last. "Put. I agree not to do it when he's about to grab a drink because then he will just get irritated with you. You need to have a serious talk with your DH. Since our house is on the way to the hospital, we stopped to get our bags. -Stephanie, My husband started throwing up while I was pushing. Its never easy to be with an alcoholic husband, but these things can surely help. 5 drinks a night sounds like a problem bigger than just worrying about having a sober ride to the hospital. I mean, my husband was blotto, passed out beside me. This post and the responses make me want to bash my head against a wall. My contractions are 1-2 min apart at this point. The nurse had him switch out for my best friend and he scooted over to sit next to me on the bed and just as a nurse pushed a trash can in front of him he proceeded to PUKE LOUDLY next to me on the bed while I was in transition! I turned to my husband and asked him to grab me a snack out of our bags. He came home around 5 when my contractions were about 2 minutes apart and proceeded to watch tv and eat dinner. My hubby has a habit of drinking a lot (over 5 drinks in an evening) after a rough day at work, and I'm worried I'll go into labor, and he'll be extremely buzzed. If that doesn't work,I have two thoughts. Only when you will make them realize that it is a problem and it puts you in an awkward position afterward. Professional help might be available via your health insurance if he needs medical assistance due to withdrawal symptoms (which, if he drinks every day, he might) or a specific substance abuse program may even be available under the mental health coverage in your plan. So not only did my husband eat an Indian take-away while I was in the throws of labour, he told me my hair looked a mess. Thank you TokenI think im in love with you! What would you do? In the worst case, you would also want to avoid the situation as much as you can. I had read a list of what to pack on a baby website. The. I gave birth in a Cambodian hospital that, well lets say was set up with top notch 1950s style equipment. The doc said that was waaaaay too much and really unhealthy. It was about 11:30 am when we finally made it to the hospital (which was on the other side of town) and after being examined by the nurse, was told I was going to have my child later that evening (at about 6 pm)! Now, I love Firefly, but I will forever associate Captain Malcolm Reynolds saying I swear by my pretty floral bonnet, I will end you with the start of the worst pain of my life. -Carrie, My husband rested the magazine he was reading on my legs while I lay dying WITHOUT an epidural. When my nurse came in to reposition me I said, can you please wake my husband up his snoring is driving me nuts She did, and he said, well who can get any sleep around here with that beeping(referring to the sound of our sons internal fetal heart rate monitor) It was driving me nuts so I put the pillow over my head!. I told him to either put the whole call on mute, tell them his wife was in active labor, or (and I strongly encouraged this), NOT TAKE THE DAMN CALL. He says to her Oh, the hospital said theyd call me as soon as anything happened As he was saying the words he knew hed made a mistake. And then I would unleash hell. I would be concerned about YH having 5 drinks in one night on a regular basis. I guess I had it pretty good! I HAVE to join in here. 26 years of marriage has taught me to make sure she is comfortable and has what she needs first and to be honest about what I need. I am so thankful and blessed I dont have a story to share like this. When my DH was starting up his business last year we were going through huge financial stress he would often have 2-3 beer over a day. After reading through all of them (and seriously, YOU SHOULD READ THROUGH ALL OF THEM, the thread might be the best thread ever), I have one question What about the phrase 9cm dilated makes men feel the need to abandon their unborn children to buy a sandwich??? He will have a beer or two these days, but knows not to get drunk during my last few weeks of pregnancy. Fine. What happens if you have an emergency at home one night and your husband is drunk? Unless yo ass is imoan. (I am not worried about a ride though because we have a ton of family and friends that could take me in a pinch.). Why do I remember the date so well? Oh well, possibly because it was the day before I gave birth to our 3rd child, Jack. Okayjust to show another sidebecause I love this storywith my third we had some complications and had an emergency c section. No matter how many times this joke-cum-legend is passed off as a recent tale, nothing will . omg, i totally broke out in huge loud laughter when i read this.in a silent room at that. When we face problems we cannot solve, we work on someting we can. Finally after I frantically run around the church for a few mins he calls back in which I tell him get all our pre packed bags and carseat ready to go Im on my way home she is in labor, we lived 4 hours from the birthmom. since the 4th month. Wondering how? Ask the medical staff questions. I come into the living room and give her a kiss. And then figured hed take care of some business while he was on the line. After Amy Lam prematurely went into labor and gave birth to their baby at home, her husband, Gilbert Kwok, thought the worst was over. He never got that chance. Finally, my Dad called the neighbors across the street to ask them to leave a note on the door of the house. At 4 weeks premature my water broke at 4am. She drives me to my place, which looks surreal in the morning light. Yes, keep telling her that labor will sober him right up, and that he has to sit in the waiting room if he is buzzed, because that's totally the right answer. Yesterday, my husband got drunk at his family's cookout. Why do I remember the date so well? Your DH's drinking is outside what is healthy, for him, for your relationship, and for your new family. He cracked jokes the entire time, including asking my medical team (all women in masks) what they were making in woodshop. My husband and I have had our problems with his drinking in the past. Im sorry if you do not want to hear this but someone has got to say it instead of ignoring it. These are all hilarious and I feel lucky that I do not have a funny story to write. Hoping to cure the problem. Thanks! husband drunk when i went into labor 2022. rpi women's hockey: schedule. I was panting when he turned and yelled at me why cant you get to four. The midwife explained it at the hospital as the baby was born less then 30 minutes later. A man can metabolize 2 drinks a day. You know, because that is how alcoholism works. For example, someone might have a problem with drinking but deny it to themselves or their loved ones to avoid admitting they have a drinking problem. I was progressing very rapidly and I was in great pain. He then goes home and sleeps on and off for 10 hours (in between bouts of explosive diahrrea) while Im at the hospital with our first newborn daughter, ALONE. He passed out in my bed (I was in the chair) and proceeded to puke. Youve got to be kidding me?! Woodward said the labor was moving fast and about 15 minutes later, the baby had arrived, even before paramedics had arrived on the scene. I know you probably came on here just to vent about your guy being insensitive to your worries, but I have to speak up when I see such specific and high quantities related to drinking. Thanks for sticking with us for a full year. I feel so much resentment for his lack of physical and emotional support. For instance, Mike made me wait in the lobby of our building while he went to get a . You'd like to get my newsletter! Speak to them when theyre sober and discuss setting a limit to it. Im shaking because of the epidural so I get no sleep, and hes snoring and well fed. Lets just say that he ended up spending the night in the hospital with me. -Tifffany, My husband took so many pictures of himself in the scrubs and mask (obviously super important to document) the camera battery was almost dead when we actually had the baby! So my dad went bowling. First, would he normally drive after 5 drinks? Yo Ass don't git a medal fo' marryin yo' prom date. Then she told me to leave. TAKE A SHOWER NOW!!! My water broke in the middle of the night, we made our way to the hospital and once we arrived i was put in a wheel chair, wheeled into the elevator and left unable to walk because of pain while my husband went to find a free parking spot. Thats when I had to rouse him. 45 minutes later, we left the house in a crazy snowstorm. When in labor, every woman becomes bitchy for the reason that she is in tremendous pain, moron! He said he felt so guilty and was terrified he was going to get pulled over. Those who knew Angela Dickinson said she could charm any man. -Meredith, My husband had ONE job, ONE. So, there will be relapses in the process, but you should keep on trying. As he was putting the needle in my back, my husband let out a loud snore and the dr laughed. After 19 hours of back labor and an emergency c-section, my ex went bowling with his parents. DH managed to get to the hospital after his work in time to give me a quick kiss and be kicked out for delivery. After the haircut I assume we will be leaving for the hospital and then he informs me he needs to take a shower to get the hair off. My husband and I heeded the advice and packed a bunch of snacks. It wasnt my normal doctor and she didnt believe me when I said that my four weeks early baby was estimated at around 9lbs 14 OAS two days prioryeah, I have huge kids, no gestational diabetesanyway So, she ignored that and made me incisions too small and couldnt get the baby out, despite the epidural it was PAINFUL and after ten minutes of yanking (not kidding) and vacuuming and RIPPING MY INCISION TO THE SIDE, I was screaming and crying. Labour won't "sober him up" and make it safe for him to drive. Alcoholism is a condition that occurs when someone becomes dependent on alcohol to the point where it controls their life. So, accept the fact and learn to deal with it. )My husband was engrossed by the Daytona 500. Also, alcoholic parents have a higher incidence of raising alcoholic children. From what you've posted, your H has a serious problem. We went to a friends wedding about 3 weeks ago and I asked him before hand not to drink and he did anyways and got pretty drunk. Yeah, you know, cause he was the one up since 5 am working on pushing a 10 pound baby out of his body. In the UK, between 3% and 5% of the population suffers from a drinking problem at any one time. We got to the hospital at 7:30 and I was already pushy. When she left, my husband says to me, very sweetly and earnestly, Ive had many epidurals, and I just want you to know, it doesnt feel ANYTHING like a bee sting. You really, really need to talk to him about this habit. I could barely walk for a week after the c section, my normal recovery time for that is two days. He was about 4 minutes from the hospital but after 20 minutes he stillhadnt shown up. Upon completion of said EP, he gave it to the neighbor. We keep quiet about it, yet are both so in tune with one another, we know exactly the minute something is up. First is, do you have a backup person who can be there for you? Ahh, those were the days I bet he misses me. If I were you, I would have a back up plan. And then I was really shocked when talking with an older lady at church who told me she went into labor naturally on Dec. 31, 1964, and the maternity ward was . It was our first child. My husband ripped a huge, disgusting fart while I was in labor and then got offended when I gave him the dirtiest look I possibly could. -Amber, My husband made me wait for him to finish watching Gladiator after my water broke. When I woke up after the operation, the nurses unceremoniously kicked me out, but because I didnt have a cellphone, I couldnt call him and I didnt have my own transport. Then he gets home and wants a couple more glasses of wine. This went on all day. Tell him your concerns rationally and lovingly, and if he doesn't listen you have your answer as to the best course of action for you and your child on the day of labor and beyond. Reach out to rescue them only when they seek out help. Around 10 am he announces that he has to go home because the Popeyes he ate has given him food poisoning. She gives me her phone number . I know the tone has gotten pretty intense, but it shouldn't interfere with the central message: the behavior you're describing in your husband is binge drinking, and the more often he does it, the worse off your family will be. But still no medal. What bugged me was that my husband didnt want to call into work so I was the one who had to meet the girl and her entire family (her, her boyfriend(not the dad), her mom, dad, grandma, step mom, step dad, sister and I think the family dog. Second, how important is it to your husband that he be at the birth? And yeahshe figured it out and got him out quickly after that, but he was deeply bruised and as a result had terrible jaundice, needing bili blankets through the fifth day and had muscular trauma in his neck that he needed therapy to correct for two years afterward. He never slept even when I did (due to pain meds, epidural didnt work) for 27 hours. He was driving me to hospital in his Mustang Cobra, and we got caught in traffic over a bridge. My husband made the list! So I went about my day normally and really thought something was going on around 3pm. Suffer, dear. Now I refuse to touch it so that I can pass it down to my own daughter. I'm guesing it's pretty important. I explained that his drinking like this gives me anxiety and I want our little baby brought into a happy, stress free world. According to the World Health Organisation, around 2% of adults globally have a drinking problem thats over one billion people! You willingly married and created a child with an annoying drunk and yethe's the stupid one. And yes, I actually fix my hair. And please feel free to add your husbands own egregious efforts below. That was a mistake. The only known and safe ways for your doctor to do it include the . SEARCH PARTIES. Youve done this before. Not sure of this counts but after I had the baby I realized I forgot to pack underware so I told my husband to bring me a pair. However, we did talk about it; and he truthfully would have been so embarrassed to call and ask his mom (or my parents) to drive me to the hospital if need be, because he wouldn't feel comfortable driving. Thank you all for this! , around 2% of adults globally have a drinking problem thats over one billion people! We finally make it to the hospital and Im left alone for quite a while and I find out why when he strolls into the room with his lunch of a turkey sandwich, clam chowder soup and soda and he says, dont worry honey, I didnt forget about you, here are your ice chips. He then proceeds to interview and film every nurse that enters the room and when it is time to film the labor, we were out of film, wonder why. From funny to divorce-worthy to I-would-totally-understand-if-your-husband-turned-up-dead,here are 28 of my favorite examples of Crap Husbands Pull While Their Wives are in Labor. Frankly this scares me. First of all, I'm sorry you're going through this; especially at this point in your pregnancy. Related Reading: 15 Ways How to Have Self-Control in a Relationship. Your rights as a patient supecedes his right to violate your peace and privacy. My first child was early and I had a long hard 19 hour labor. My husband decided the ideal time to invite his parents into the labor & delivery room was when I was laying spread eagle, everything out for the world to see, being stitched up by the doctor after our son was born. Phil, was at this point, fading fast. Yeah right. For you I would give your DH a heads up if you start feeling any contractions and have him head home if they start getting regular . He only ever left my side to grab a bite once in the cafe. When I called him an hour later because I was 9 centimeters he said he was at Sams buying Tupperware. Here are 10 ways of dealing with an alcoholic husband: Wondering how you should be dealing with an alcoholic husband? lol. If we go anywhere and he has more than 2 drinks I drive home. I didnt even realise I was annoyed about this, nor did I particularly want to be, but it just kind of snuck up on me. God bless my daughter for sleeping/ nursing her way into this world. When I mentioned this is really beginning to hurt, his comment? He will NEVER live that down. However, you can convince them to set certain limits to how much they should be drinking. I would be wasted if I had 5 drinks. Remember, youre not to be blamed for their habit. The love and support of your family can help you cope during this difficult time and give you the encouragement you need to get back on track. Besides, alcoholic people need reasons to blame people for their condition. She all but collapses into my arms exhausted to the point she couldn't even walk to the bedroom.
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